Saturday, December 10, 2011

Think Before You Speak

I think that it is safe to say that we have all had those moments where we speak what is on our mind without thinking about how it may affect those listening. There are times where we realize our mistakes almost immediately, and then other times where we might never realize the damage that was done.

A co-worker of mine (I will refer to her as Tina, for my storys sake) made some remarks about her weight during lunch the other day. Tina was speaking about how she was trying to eat better, and how she was extremely dissatisfied with her current weight. Another co-worker of mine (I will refer to her as Kelly) asked how much Tina weighed right now. Tina told Kelly that she was now at 180 lbs. (Mind you, Tina's current weight is a weight that I would love to be at; I currently weigh 241 lbs.) Kelly went on to say how she couldn't believe that Tina weighed "that much" and that she "didn't look like she was that heavy". (Another side note: Kelly weighs about 130 lbs.) Tina laughed and thanked her before going on to tell her that she was in the middle of a weight rollercoaster. Tina admitted  to Kelly that she was once "God awfully huge" and weighed in at a "whopping 220 lbs" when she was pregnant. Tina went on to explain how "disgustingly huge she was" and that she managed to get down to 140 pounds about two years after having her baby.

The two co-workers knew that I was sitting right next to them, at what couldn't be mistaken for anything under, "a whopping 220 lbs". Yet, they went on discussing this topic with complete disregard. After being a part of such conversations in the past, I now know not to take these words personally. However, being human, it still hurt a bit to know that this is what my co-workers think; that 220 lbs is "God awfully huge" and "disgusting". I digress, I do not hold their opinion against them by any means. Why, you ask? Well, I feel like this is the standard that they have set for themselves. Most of us can agree that we are much harder on ourselves than others, right?

The reason why I wanted to share this with you was because I know that we all have times where we need to think before we speak. If you are in a situation such as this in the future, I hope that you remember this post. I hope that you remember that when people are talking about their weight, they are referring to it according to the standard that they set for themselves. Try not to take it personally, and use these situations as a reflection of what you say in the presence of others about your own standards in life.


  1. Your beautiful at any size! Some people just don't see outside "their little world" it sucks.

  2. Thanks so much for the confidence boost, SeaSchell! Beauty does come in all different sizes. I'm glad that you were able to relate, too.