Thursday, March 21, 2013

Peer Pressure and Buffet Lunch

The other day, a coworker asked me if I was joining her and some other coworkers at a buffet lunch on Thursday, which is today. I said maybe, which was my first mistake. I should have said no from the start, but I was busy at the time and she isn't the type of person who takes no for what it is; I knew she would have definitely asked why, and I didn't have time for that.

So, the second time she asked, I said I was going to pass. I braced myself as she did what I thought she would; she asked why. I told her it was because I wanted to stay on track and bring in my packed lunch. This is where things got ugly.

I don't know why people feel like they have to pressure others in to eating something they do not want. Truthfully, it is hard enough to say no as it is, but it's even harder when people try to pressure you in to saying yes, when you've already said no.

Instead of taking my reasoning for what it was, my co-worker began pressuring me to change my mind. Unfortunately for her, I have heard it all before, because I've used the same "pressures" as excuses for myself far too many times.

The pressures she proceeded to put on me after I already had said "no thank you" went something like this:

Pressure: "But we're all going"
Answer: "I already planned to pack"
Pressure: "It's a buffet!"
Answer: "I know, I don't have enough control to make healthy choices at a buffet. I'm trying to do better."
Pressure: "It's cheap, only $6.00. And you can just get salad!"
Answer: "Why pay $6.00 for a salad that I can make and already have the ingredients for at home?"
Pressure: "It's just one time, you can take a break!"
Answer: "I don't need any more excuses to indulge, I do that enough on my own."

She eventually gave up. Even though I'm sure she meant nothing by it, it was incredibly frustrating that I had to even stand up for my choice to begin with. I have come across this many times throughout my journey, and while it isn't fun, it does seem to get a little easier over time.

Times such as these, make me really thankful for all of the supportive friends and family I have in my life. They know who they are, and I hope they know just how much I appreciate them!

1 comment:

  1. SO PROUD OF YOU! Way to stick to your guns! I know how hard it is to stay on track, especially at a buffet! You are an inspiration to all of us!