Tuesday, April 4, 2017

It Starts with Self Compassion

Last week, I was feeling pretty crumby being down with the flu and all. So, I visited a website that I knew would give me a quick mood-boost: Happify!

It's been a few years since I talked about Happify here. A few years later and I still find it to be a great resource. I haven't made visiting the site as much of a priority as I did once before, but I'm getting back into the habit of carving out 10-15 minutes of time for myself each day. That's really all it takes to complete the daily tasks -- which are usually pumped full of useful information.

Right now, I am re-taking a course on Happify that is encouraging me to practice more self-compassion, and here are a few quotes from the course that really stuck with me:
"Exercising your empathy, compassion, and mindfulness isn’t only a boost to your relationship with yourself—it can also make for stronger connections with your loved ones. That’s because when you’re more compassionate with yourself, you’re better able to nurture healthy relationships with others. - Jean Fain in The Self-Compassion Diet."
 "'Self-compassion boosts our resilience so that when we stumble, we can get up and try again. When making a mistake isn’t a big deal, we’re more open to learn from our missteps and try new things, rather than hide in shame.' - Kristin Neff, Ph.D. Neff says today's competitive culture leads us to believe being good enough isn't good enough. Media images and slogans push us to compare ourselves with others, even though there will always, always be someone who is more successful, richer, skinnier, or more attractive than we are. Neff’s research shows that self-compassionate people feel more secure and strongly suggests that accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who are easier on themselves are less likely to be depressed and anxious and are more prone to happiness and optimism. Self-compassion steps in precisely when we fall down, allowing us to get up and try again." - Happify.com
These quotes came to me in the perfect time. I've been struggling with a little self-compassion. While most people tend to lose weight when they are down-and-out with the flu, I am the opposite. The utter lack of activity really makes it easy for me to put on weight. 

So, one week with the flu and I gained two pounds from it. Instead of getting down about it, I am going to show myself some self-compassion. There is a time to work, and there is a time to rest. Resting was the right choice last week, and as soon as I'm feeling up to it again, I will be working out and getting back on my losing streak again, soon!

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