Saturday, January 4, 2014

Retrain Your Brain for Happiness

It's Saturday. The sun is out. Life is good.

Sometimes it's necessary to relish the little moments and little things that make us happy. I truly believe that each one of us has a reason to be happy. Even if it is just because the sun is out. More often than not, it seems to be easier to focus on the stuff that doesn't make us happy. But it doesn't always have to be that way. No, sir.

Years ago, I use to be the biggest pessimist. It took a while to retrain my brain, but it eventually happened. When people come to me with problems, my first reaction isn't to wallow with them; my first reaction is to look for the silver lining, the stuff that will bring up their spirits. The stuff that will allow them to think, "this isn't so bad, after all". As a friend, sister, wife, daughter, etc., I want to help the people I love feel good, not worse. I'm sure you feel the same. The question is, do you give yourself that same treatment?

When you stumble, do you focus on thoughts that will bring you up, or hold you down?

If you're a new reader, you may wonder the relevance of all this. After all, this is a blog created to follow my weight-loss journey. But that's just it! Being happy and positive is one of the biggest, if not the biggest reason why I have lost nearly 40 lbs. If you aren't happy, if you don't support yourself in a positive way, then your chances of sticking to your weight-loss journey go down. Simple as that.

If you struggle with negative thoughts, but want to change, I've found this article which may help you: 

I was in an accident on New Years Eve. A co-worker who was plowing the parking lot at the place I work, did not see me behind him, and began backing up with increasingly fast speed. He backed up onto the hood of my car, his tire almost reached the windshield. It would have been much worse if that happened. 

My reaction to this accident was so much different than those around me. I felt a few different things during this experience. I felt shock, fear and sadness. I mostly felt sad for the person who drove over my hood. It was a mistake; he didn't see me. I felt bad this happened to him, and that he had to deal with the regret. Never have I felt mad. However, so many of the people I tell this incident to get mad at the person who did this.

The reason I am telling you this is because I got through this event, and continue to get through the aftermath of it all, thanks to the power of positive thinking.

It would be easy to think like this:

My car is in the shop. It was our only vehicle. They gave us a loaner car but the tires are horrible. Of course it snowed a foot and I can't drive my loaner car anywhere because it's not safe. This is such an inconvenience.

It takes a positive mind to think like this:

My car is in the shop. The process for fixing the vehicle is underway. If I need a ride anywhere, I have the support of family and friends. This experience has been a humble reminder of how blessed I am to have such supportive and loving people in my life.

How we react to situations and how we deal with situations all comes from how we think. If you think more positively, you'll be happier. I know I am.

Positive thinkers: were you always a positive thinker, or is this something you had to work on?

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for sharing this inspirational post. In my life and with my clients I can see how our thoughts truly create our reality. I have had similar struggles (including a recent car accident!) These moments literally and figuratively shake us up! But our power lies in our choice to react positively.
    Thanks for the reminder, I needed to hear it!
    Best in 2014!
    Amita Patel